I see beauty in self-love. In taking ourselves as we are and being our own inspiration, we inspire and encourage others. If your programming is working against you, you can rewire it. Replace it with something different and more positive so you can be a more successful you—whatever success means to you. Think of it as learning a new language. You have to OWN it. This is how we live.
HOW TO REWIRE YOUR BRAIN
“It's not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it's what you whisper to yourself that has the most power!” ~ Robert T. Kiyosaki (Rich Dad, Poor Dad)
First, start with a single area that you want to work on the most and stick with it. Replace any negativity with a positive word, idea, inspiration. The important key here is to think I CAN, I AM, and I WILL.
Since I am a Life and Fitness Coach, let's use our internal conversations on fitness and nutrition as an example. We are individuals, each one of us made to be who we are. Yet, we often compare ourselves to others.
"I wish I had that body." "I just can't work out like you do." "Wait, it only took you two days to look like that?!" You know the talk. The "oh, you're so much better at everything than I am" mindset, even as we ignore our best and emerging selves.
Let's practice rewiring your brain...
Here's a quick checklist to help you get started.
How do you see yourself – what’s the image in the mind’s mirror?
Are you critical of yourself?
Do you know the basis of your criticism – where it comes from?
Do you have toxic voices in your life – family, friends, peers, etc.?
Are you judging yourself and by whose standards?
When you begin to doubt yourself or criticize yourself, take a breath and begin a self-assessment. Write down the words and phrases you are using to describe yourself. If you are struggling with bad eating habits, start a food journal so you can identify the specific areas you'd like to change. If you have toxic relationships—people who constantly put you down or criticize you—identify those connections and be specific about why they need to be changed or released.
The key is to listen to what you are saying about yourself. Once you know, then you can turn it around.
Write it down so you can recognize patterns and see how your self-talk is affecting you. When you see it on paper (words or images), it’s easier to get clarity and to understand what you’ve been saying to yourself and where it’s coming from.
Today I am... (write down the words that immediately come to mind.)
Ask yourself if they motivate, inspire, encourage or uplift you.
Become your own inspiration. Manage what you say to yourself. Replace any words that are not inspiring, encouraging or uplifting with words or phrases that are more positive. If you need some inspiration, try these to start...
Worthy. Valued. Loved. Purpose-Driven. Resilient. Bold. Courageous. Fearless.
Find positive words that you can make your own.
Post them somewhere visible.
Habits are easy to form and difficult to break so it takes conscious practice to change the ones you already have.
Repeat your affirmations daily—as often as you wish or whenever you’re in need.
Repeat internally as often as needed.
Speak them out loud every day and as often as needed.
Don’t wait to get started. Do it now, today. Yes. That’s it.
Now, welcome to a more confident and happier you!!